Humans are social beings. We are meant to be connected. Whom we are connected to and how we are connected to them is crucial. Often times our relationships play an important role in our success or failure.
• About 48% of job-seekers obtain employment through referrals from people they know – networking with friends, colleagues, acquaintances, and former co-workers. Hiring managers don’t hire resumes they hire people.
• Have you heard the saying “Show me your 5 closest friends and I’ll show you your future”? Even youth understand that there is truth to that statement. If you are the kindest, smartest, most disciplined, most motivated, AND highest paid person in your inner circle I doubt that you are being “stretched” beyond your comfort zone and you probably need a new inner circle.
When you work with youth they want to know who you are not what degrees you possess. They want to know you care. We build relationship by being transparent. Don’t get me wrong – I have strong professional boundaries – but you can’t get to know your youth without allowing them to know the real you.
Many of us we are skilled in a variety of areas. Our culture has taught us to multi-task like our lives depend on it (often times it does). Throughout my career and definitely as an entrepreneur I have felt like a jack of all trades and a master of none on many occasions. I have helped clients with housing, food, medical assistance, and clothing. I have played the role of “work mom”, chauffer, parenting coach, stylist, and teacher. Some days I have worn the hat of scholarship consultant, academic advisor, counselor, tour guide, and career coach. I am truly a “do what needs to be done” kind of lady. In fact, two of my most used phrases are “get it done” and “keep it moving”. That’s good right? Well, usually it is.
A few years ago I had begun to run on “auto pilot” for a couple months. At times I would do a presentation or workshop simply because I had the knowledge or because I was asked. I was forced to be honest with myself and take a look at how I was spending my time. I realized that busy doesn’t always equate to productive. I needed to make some changes.
Pumpkins, vampires, even President Obama. Teens and adults across the country will be dressed in Halloween costumes today. We have been bombarded with commercials by retailers who hope to cash in on the phenomenon. Many people plan their costumes weeks and even months ahead of the big dress-up day. Halloween costumes allow teens to pretend to be someone they are not. On Halloween teens can change their gender, change shape, and even change their color without explanation. A Halloween costume can allow a teen to become a superhero or a villain for the day. It’s all fun and games right? Let me pose a serious question…and please take a moment before you answer. Is your teen wearing a mask the other 364 days of the year? Is your teen waiting until Halloween to be the person they want to be? I encourage you to encourage your teens take off the masks and be themselves everyday.
Successful people take action. They get up and get moving in the direction of their dreams. In order to achieve success, one must be able to seek out and take advantage of opportunities. But how do you effectively evaluate job, academic, business, housing, and even relationship opportunities?
A prerequisite for making wise choices or taking calculated risks is clarity. Once you are clear about what you want it is time to look for the best opportunity with which your efforts will soar. Once you are clear about your wants it is critical to get a clear picture of the opportunity. Ultimately, you are trying to determine if this opportunity will help you accomplish the personal goals you have for yourself. Here are six areas that you must evaluate: