Many interviewers still ask some form of the questions “what do you consider one of your weaknesses” or “what one area where you seek improvement is”. In my opinion, these are two very different questions. There are some things I’m fantastic at, some things I’m good at, and some things that I just don’t do well at all. I’m sure the same holds true for you. No one is perfect. We all have areas in our lives in which we can improve. The key is to know which things are important enough to work on and which things don’t warrant a third thought.
People almost always express one of two ideas when they find out that I have a Master’s degree in social work; (1) They think I’m a counselor or therapist; or (2) They think I snatch children from their families and put them in foster care. This isn’t an exaggeration. What comes to mind when you think of a Social Worker?
I presented a workshop earlier this month and was asked by a volunteer if I feel my social work education prepared me for my career in social work. My answer was that my life and professional experiences prepared me for my education. I’m going to take you back to my high school days to begin my explanation.
HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!
I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line. -Lucille Ball
Beauty is when you can appreciate yourself. When you love yourself, that’s when you’re most beautiful. -Zoe Kravitz
Don’t forget to show yourself some extra love today!!
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Nicki Sanders, Chief Visionary Officer of Packaged For Success, helps both youth and adults discover their personal power, dream big, and achieve success on their own terms. Ms. Sanders is an experienced trainer, group facilitator, and program manager who holds a Master’s degree in Social Work. Ms. Sanders has over fifteen years of direct experience with diverse populations in residential, school-based, and community based agencies.
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What are the last 3 compliments you received…from anyone? It doesn’t matter if your five year old told you how delicious dinner tasted, your significant other told you how great you looked in your little black dress, or your boss thanked you for always meeting deadlines ahead of schedule. Have you thought of the compliments? Now ask yourself how they truly made you feel. How did you respond in each situation?
Did you accept each compliment graciously? Did you give yourself a few seconds to take it in and own it or did you minimize your abilities or beauty? Most of us have to admit that even if we said thank you, we added a negative phrase to the end of the acceptance. Why do we do this? I believe one reason is that many women have been taught that humility is a virtue. Humility is defined as the quality or state of not thinking you are better than other people. That’s the good part, right? Of course it is. Being humble or “having or showing a modest or low estimate of one’s own importance” is the not so good part because you have lowered your self-worth. What we think affects how we speak and act. What we say affects what we think and how we behave.
Eliminating self-defeating thoughts is a daily journey that requires persistence, patience, and practice. Here are four steps to aid you in the process of moving away from negative thinking toward more positive thoughts.
Record – Notice your thoughts. Get a small journal and record your negative thoughts for 48 hours. Yes, write down every negative thing that you say to yourself or about yourself for two full days.
Reflect – Reflect on your thoughts and what brought them on. How do you feel?
Rebel – Distance yourself from self-defeating thoughts. Make a commitment to change.
Recondition – It’s time to recondition your mind with uplifting and encouraging thoughts. What would you like to have said to yourself? Take out your journal and write the opposite of the negative thoughts you’ve recorded. Read the positive list aloud regularly,
These steps can be repeated as often as necessary.
Authentic = not false or copied; genuine
Human beings are created to live in groups. We are social creatures who want to be loved and accepted. We live in a world that bombards us with its standards of beauty, success, and normalcy. You may have been called odd or different more times than you care to remember but I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to conform. Don’t settle for being a carbon copy of someone else when you can be authentically you.
If you want to get more out of life, then it’s time to embrace your individuality and accept yourself for exactly who you are. Embracing your individuality doesn’t mean that there won’t be things within you that want to change. Embracing your individuality means you see the real you, who is imperfect, but you know you’re still amazing.
Let’s go beyond the superficial “beauty is only skin deep” and get to the root of what makes you uniquely you?