Foster Youth Toolbox

What Are You Fantastic At?

Posted by on February 19, 2014 at 9:03 pm

Many interviewers still ask some form of the questions “what do you consider one of your weaknesses” or “what one area where you seek improvement is”. In my opinion, these are two very different questions. There are some things I’m fantastic at, some things I’m good at, and some things that I just don’t do well at all. I’m sure the same holds true for you. No one is perfect. We all have areas in our lives in which we can improve. The key is to know which things are important enough to work on and which things don’t warrant a third thought.


Love Yourself First

Posted by on February 14, 2014 at 12:31 pm


I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.  -Lucille Ball

Beauty is when you can appreciate yourself. When you love yourself, that’s when you’re most beautiful.  -Zoe Kravitz


Don’t forget to show yourself some extra love today!!

Happy Valentines Day

Eliminate Self-Defeating Thoughts

Posted by on February 7, 2014 at 5:00 am

Eliminating self-defeating thoughts is a daily journey that requires persistence, patience, and practice.  Here are four steps to aid you in the process of moving away from negative thinking toward more positive thoughts.


Step 1
Record – Notice your thoughts.  Get a small journal and record your negative thoughts for 48 hours.  Yes, write down every negative thing that you say to yourself or about yourself for two full days.


Step 2
Reflect – Reflect on your thoughts and what brought them on.  How do you feel?


Step 3
Rebel – Distance yourself from self-defeating thoughts.  Make a commitment to change.


Step 4
Recondition – It’s time to recondition your mind with uplifting and encouraging thoughts.  What would you like to have said to yourself? Take out your journal and write the opposite of the negative thoughts you’ve recorded.  Read the positive list aloud regularly,

These steps can be repeated as often as necessary.

4 Steps


Where Is The Real You?

Posted by on February 5, 2014 at 5:00 am

Authentic = not false or copied; genuine

Human beings are created to live in groups.  We are social creatures who want to be loved and accepted.  We live in a world that bombards us with its standards of beauty, success, and normalcy.  You may have been called odd or different more times than you care to remember but I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to conform.  Don’t settle for being a carbon copy of someone else when you can be authentically you.


If you want to get more out of life, then it’s time to embrace your individuality and accept yourself for exactly who you are. Embracing your individuality doesn’t mean that there won’t be things within you that want to change.  Embracing your individuality means you see the real you, who is imperfect, but you know you’re still amazing. 


Let’s go beyond the superficial “beauty is only skin deep” and get to the root of what makes you uniquely you? 

Today Was A Good Day

Posted by on February 3, 2014 at 5:00 am

Today was a good day but every day won’t be a good day. We all face struggles and get discouraged at times. Sometimes it’s really hard to remain positive. Thinking positive thoughts on good days can help you to sustain your hope on challenging days. Positive thoughts build your skills, boost your health, and improve your work. Developing a habit of positive thinking helps you develop a positive attitude. Optimism can make life seem easier and even more enjoyable.


We all have met people who lose their motivation when they fail or who believe that they are constantly bombarded by adversity. It’s really hard to be successful when you doubt yourself. Positive thinking often leads to positive results. Believing that you have the ability to achieve a task puts you on the fast track to accomplishing it. It allows you to regroup and seek different solutions when things aren’t going well. We all get stumped sometimes but our thoughts determine whether we fall down and stay there or get up and keep moving forward.

Is The Teen Toolbox Gone?

Posted by on January 29, 2014 at 5:00 am

Have you read these other blog posts?

  1. From Case Manager To Life Strategist
  2. Nicki, Queen of Planning
  3. Stop, Hiding Nicki


If you have read these blogs and you’re concerned that The Teen Toolbox will no longer exist, let me assure you that we have not turned our back on our youth.

The Teen Toolbox is now a division of Packaged For Success™. Under this division, you can still hire me to present life skills programs and services to teens and youth empowerment workshops to service providers and parents/foster parents. I will continue to raise awareness about the needs of teens in foster care and host our annual Pack A Purse™ and Pack A Backpack™ Drives.


Pack A Purse™ annual drive has collected over 2, 211 purses and donated them to thirty-eight organizations over seven December holiday seasons.

Pack A Backpack™ annual drive has collected over 256 backpacks and donated them to eleven organizations over two consecutive National Foster Care Month commemorations.

From Case Manager to Life Strategist

Posted by on January 24, 2014 at 5:00 am

I worked as a Case Manager for many years. Case Management doesn’t have a universal definition. One organization describes case management as a collaborative process of assessment, planning, facilitation, care coordination, evaluation, and advocacy for options and services to meet an individual’s needs. Generally speaking, case management refers to the coordination of services and resources on behalf of an individual. I assisted clients with everything from housing to budgeting to employment.


Life Strategist
The pursuit of my dreams includes helping you to pursue your dreams. I was an awesome Case Manager and although that is no longer my vocation, the skills needed to excel as a Case Manager have allowed me to become an awesome Life Strategist. I invite you to invest in your future with a one on one telephone strategy session.


There is an important difference between an idea and a strategy. An idea is a notion or a vague conception of something. A strategy is a plan or method used to obtain a specific result. During our strategy session, we will not just brainstorm ideas; we will create action steps for your goals.