“Too many people spend too much time trying to perfect something before they actually do it. Instead of waiting for perfection, run with what you go, and fix it along the way…” – Paul Arden
I am a recovering perfectionist and procrastinator. Take Action Revise Later is a strategy that has taken me years to implement into my life. Sometimes you just have to get things done. TODAY is that day!
I am not a website expert or a techie but I wanted to be able to create some parts of my new website on my own. I planned the perfect colors and background images and location for my bio and picture. I was taking small steps but never really getting the results I wanted. Things weren’t going the way I planned. The truth is perfectionism can be paralyzing. I have been planning and tooling with my new website for almost 3 months now and although there is a lot more that I want done to the site I have decided to share it with the world today. The wait is over.
Years ago when my daughter and nephew would ask me what I wanted for Christmas my answer was always “peace and quiet”. It’s not that they were particularly noisy children but rather I was always busy. So busy in fact that I can vividly recall lying across my bed without a telephone, TV, or radio and my middle school daughter asking me what was wrong because she had rarely seen me doing nothing. When I wasn’t out and about fluttering around like a busy bee my home was filled with people. Honestly I think there was a full year when I wasn’t home alone for even one day of the 365 days on the calendar. As I look back over that time I realize that I was absolutely exhausted and my car was my sanctuary. Driving in my car was my only alone time. I drive many more miles than the average person and my drive time allowed me to have peace and quiet or blast my favorite tunes as I sang really loudly. Those days are over – never to return. I understand the value of quiet time and that I don’t need permission to do what’s best for me..
Protect Your Circle
I believe that we are the average of the people we spend the most time with. What that means is who we become is impacted (at least in part) by who we grace with our presence. This is true in business and in regular life. Successful people understand and practice this concept by surrounding themselves with positive people who encourage and support them. Healthy relationships consist of reciprocity, honesty and open communication. When we engage in healthy relationships we feel safe, valued, loved, and even more confident. Our overall health can also improve when we have someone to confide in or brainstorm with.
Similarly, if I want to be an entrepreneur then all of my time shouldn’t be spent with people who plan to be life-long employees. If I want to improve my financial future then spending time with people who are always broke or have a poverty mentality is counterproductive.
How many times have you heard someone say “take responsibility for your life”? How many people have said that to you? No matter how true, it isn’t always an empowering statement. Let me be clear that I’m not a fan of spoon feeding people what they want to hear or sugar coating the truth, however, I believe we have to reach people where they are. If I don’t “hear” someone’s great advice I’m not going to implement it.
So today I want to say this to you, “your life is in good hands – your own”! It’s time to be honest with ourselves and realize that our decisions, our actions, and our thoughts are within our control. If we want our outward world to get better our inner self has to get better. When we blame other people for where we are, what we have, and who we are connected to, we literally give away our power.
Gaining clarity about your wants and priorities is essential to success. It’s time to get out of your head and go from fuzzy ideas and wishful thinking to achievement. Setting goals helps you clarify what you want and what you need to do to accomplish it.
Write your goals (on paper or electronically). Putting your goals in writing is the primary action step toward making them realities. You will be able to see and celebrate your progress. Clearly written goals help you stay focused so don’t just write any old goal, take it a step further and write SMART goals.
SMART goals are:
(1) Specific – A specific goal has a much greater chance of being realized than a general goal.
(2) Measurable – Decide what criteria you will use to measure your progress and determine if you are staying on track
(3) Achievable – Goals should be attainable with available resources and important enough that you will stick with them
(4) Realistic – Goals should stretch you and challenge but be reachable
(5) Timely – Commit to a time frame or deadline
I have wanted a white 7 series BMW since I was in junior high school. Even after over 20 years of production of new models I still want the same car. No ifs, and, or buts – the white BMW 750Li is for me. I don’t want tinted windows or lots of chrome and I have the interior features all picked out. Contrast that decisiveness with my desire a few years to “live comfortably” which was followed by wanting to be “debt-free”. What does either of those things even mean? My subconscious didn’t understand what I was wishing for. I needed a specific number to aim for in order to hit the financial target. Now I know that wishful thinking rarely results in real results.
Clarity is essential to success!
- When we know most of the pieces of the puzzle we have less anxiety and frustration. The unknown can be a scary place.
- Foggy thinking or confusion keeps us stuck. We often stand still or wander aimlessly when we don’t know what we want to do or where we want to go.
Here is another one of my truths. I have the taste buds and eating habits of a five year old. I am a big fan of sugary snacks and don’t really like vegetables. Soul food and classic American diner cuisine are my weakness. Add this to the fact that I don’t exercise regularly and you get a few extra pounds creeping up over the course of a few years. Don’t stop the train and the pounds no longer creep – they show up at the front door with luggage in hand. Then there are those totally preventable diseases that litter my family tree like diabetes and high blood pressure – I am no longer inviting those into my future. I know I need to eat better and get active. Knowledge is not power in this instance. The power is in putting what I know into action. I’m not a dieter and probably never will be. I’m also not a “hit the gym” kind of girl. In the past I’ve walked a high school track and stopped eating as poorly (but didn’t make it to the point of eating well). I have no desire to go back to being “the skinny girl” but these extra pounds absolutely need to go. I am not going to declare that I will totally cut out junk food and carbs and exercise five days a week. I know myself well enough to know that it won’t happen – at least not at first. I am a proponent of playing to your strengths and achieving success on your own terms. In this instance it means getting healthy in my own way and my way is to play. I am purchasing a hula hoop and jump rope and hitting the roller skating rink. I know these are things I will commit to. Once I start to have more fun and build up my endurance I will add other activities and exercises to the list (like walking and Zumba). I have important work to do and a long happy life to enjoy!